Step 4 - Results!
  
    Now that we understand our behaviour in a given situation we must contemplate what we have gotten out of that incident. We can ask ourselves whether or not we have subsequently applied any of the lessons learned to a similar situation, consciously or subconsciously.

  What did you learn from it?
    As humans we have a tendency to associate any of our behavioural reactions to one form of either our own experience in our past, or one we have witnessed. By examining closely an event we are able to extract the particulars of the lesson(s) we got out of that incident. By writing down the knowledge that was acquired at the time of the event, we will be able to review its subsequent impact, up to the present.
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  How do you see it now?
    Now that we are presumably wiser than we were in the past, we can compare how our views have been manifested over time in regards to a specific experience. That is to say, we can look at whether we cherish or denounce our experiences, deliberately or unintentionally.
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  How did you see others?
    Language is one of our main characteristics that differentiate us from other social species, and gives us an ability to contrive our own world of ideas, and these thoughts are responsible for who we are and how we see others, especially when something significant happens in our life. By writing down our views toward others at the time of the event that we are scrutinizing, we can find out the intensity of its impact in building relationships with others.
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  How did others see you?
    Immediately following an event we usually hear either directly or through a third party some of the opinions that have been developed by other individuals, usually those who were close to us or the event that could affect our perceptions. These points of view do not necessarily represent the facts or even reality, since each of us as mentioned earlier is in control of engineering our own thoughts based on our own unique experiences in our past. Jotting down others' points of view in relation to an event, based on what we have heard, can help us to measure the gap between the outside perception and inside reality.
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  Do you mention it to anybody?
    Criteria such as our background upbringing, culture, education, and belief system determine how open or reserved we are, in sharing our past experiences, and we are the ones who decide how large or small this frame of limitation is. The number of people with whom we discuss a specific incident and its outcome, and their relationship to us, shows the level of confidence we have, how comfortable we are with ourselves and others.
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  What do you now do differently, if similar things happen?
    Repetition is an undeniable part of life and we are susceptible to having similar incidents happen in different stages of our lives. Without thorough evaluation of our past we become products of our habits and develop particular traits in our behaviours. After examining every angle of a particular incident, we must ask ourselves how we react when a similar situation arises at the present, considering what we know and discover.
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