Step 5 - Self Evaluation!
    After completion of the stages 1 to 4, our conscious mind starts to analyze all information that has just been withdrawn from our sub-conscious mind regarding that specific incident and its related subject, and we start to comprehend how our entire personality has been affected by it. Regardless of the nature of this revelation, positive, negative or neutral, we start to get one step closer to knowing ourselves based on facts, reality, and honesty with ourselves. Most challenges in our life are a result of conflicts and interactions with other human beings that interrupt our routine because of their interference and influences on our thoughts, when, in some instances, we are unable to distance ourselves from them, mentally or physically. Hence, we must determine which parts of ourselves we want to abandon, modify, or improve upon, in order to control ourselves as much as possible.

  Communication with others!
    Whether we call it “sixth sense” or “aura”, we have a tendency to develop an instant connection, good or bad, with the people we meet. This feeling starts a spark in our communication with those with whom we develop a personal, social, or a business relationship. Part of this communication is misinterpretation of verbal and body language, and a clash of personalities without understanding the real reason, which in most cases is a derivative of our own behaviour.

    Adults usually adapt and develop certain habits over a period of time to establish specific reaction toward different people. The level of friendliness or defiance toward someone is a reflection of our own past experiences that can be triggered by simple conversation, debate, or demeanor of the party we engage in, and in most cases follows a pattern.

    Life consists of a series of challenges we face and we overcome most of them each and every day. e Each of them makes an impression in our sub-conscious mind, and the knowledge that accumulates as a result over time forms a series of patterns in our characteristics. The more prominent of these patterns have been developed mainly based on what we consider barriers in our lives.

    When confronted with an obstacle we either focus or fold depending on the circumstances and our ability to deal with the consequences. We are the product of our own past and our judgment of the situation, most of the time, is based on our limited experience and an assumption for the future outcomes, both of which are fueled by our emotions.

    Most of our decisions in life are made with our feelings, which are based on our attraction or revulsion to pain and pleasure. However, our states of happiness and sadness are measured based on the criteria that have been set by us. These benchmarks are supported by the way we see ourselves, how we rationalize our actions, and our self-esteem.

    Unfortunately, most of us try to gain our self-respect through the eyes of others, and yet we miss looking for our real impression and confidence, within ourselves. One of the main reasons that we are hungry for recognition and constantly seeking other people’s approval is an apprehension about facing ourselves and a fear of the unknown.

    There are two types of fear in each and every one of us, natural and self-made. Natural fears are to alert us to dangers we are about to face and give us an opportunity to protect ourselves. Self-made fears are the results of the unpleasant experiences in our past. These fears carry the scars of these memories to the present, and usually they are brought to us as a result of the choices that we have made.

    It all comes down to the decisions, small or large, that we make every minute of our lives. Hence, a correct resolve minimizes unwanted outcomes, elevates self-assurance, boosts enthusiasm, mitigates hurdles, promotes good habits, establishes a non-judgmental attitude, and therefore a realistic and positive approach in our communications. Therefore, as long as we measure and accept the consequences of our own actions, before making our decisions, we will be able to reduce the amount of pre-occupation in our minds as a result of misunderstanding in our interaction with the society around us.

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